Many of us know it 😀 Many wait on this „one”, but actually something like ‘the one’ doesn’t exist. Cuz’ it’s you and that second person choose to each one – by decision or bed-stuffs choose for you both, but anyway relation depends from your mutual decision. Anyhow, relationship will never be perfect. And indeed it’s not the point in relationships’ gist. There’s always be certain quarrels, cuz’ we are different, sometimes we have different needs, expectations, looking at situations.
Sometimes wife or husband has bad day and feels worse, and at the same time second person has excellent moon to fun. It’s necessary to respect own and somebody’s emotions, needs, confines. Sometimes it’s necessary to cancel a date, when second person is ill or because of sth else important. About not-perfection in relationship I could write long. 😛 But in a nutshell – relationship in itself is based on people that are not perfect ;). There’s always be discrepancies in thinking, so it’s worth to try unify activity despite unconstructive communication and the reality other than expectations… But about it in other post 😉
Easily and perfectly?
Generally it’s really hard to cope with oneself, handle with own internal conflict, work on own emotions. Cooperation with other human, who also struggles with own difficulties, is even bigger challenge. Attempts of bring together both worlds requires a lot of persistence. Getting to know second person, learning how to respond to their needs, giving adequate distance – there are demanding matters and simultaneously important issues. Of course it isn’t perfect. People need much time to form new schemes, habits in themselves in order to react better towards somebody. Change is the more difficult, the longer person repeated the same (and often not effective) action.
Don’t miss the anterior post ;). If you need relief from daily life, come there: Have you ever come for a walk guided by your feet“.